How Death Teaches Us to Truly Live

What does it really take to become unshakable when life forces you to confront your own mortality?

In this episode of Becoming Unshakable, I welcome longtime friend, innovation leader, author, and Sustainovation founder Nick Kittle for a deeply personal conversation about resilience, self-leadership, relationships, and what it means to live differently after a life-changing experience.

At 35, Nick died for 22 seconds during a medical test. What felt to him like four days became a turning point that changed how he thought about time, work, relationships, and the life he wanted to lead. He describes the experience as the beginning of “Life 2.0,” when he realized there is the life we live and the life we live once we truly understand that we only get one.

Nick shares how that realization led him to make difficult changes, leave an unhealthy work environment, reassess his relationships, and become far more intentional about where he spends his time and energy. He also explains why resilience is not something we develop once, but a muscle we strengthen by repeatedly proving to ourselves that we can do hard things.

We discuss the practices that help us remain steady when life becomes difficult, from hiking and photography to watching sunrises and sunsets. They also examine why taking care of yourself is not selfish when other people depend on you, and how leaders can become more emotionally available by protecting the time and practices that allow them to show up at their best.

Whether you are facing a major life transition, questioning your career, recovering from burnout, struggling with a difficult decision, or reconsidering what success means to you, this conversation offers a powerful reminder: becoming unshakeable is not about reaching a final destination. It is about continuing to learn, change, recover, and become a stronger version of yourself.

How are you spending the limited time you have, and what might change if you started treating that time as your most valuable resource? Listen to the episode and share your thoughts on what becoming unshakeable means to you.


About Nick Kittle

Nick Kittle is the author of the best-selling innovation book Sustainovation: Building Sustainable Innovation in Government, One Wildly Creative Idea at a Time, and spent the last 15 years in government, most recently as a Chief Innovation Officer. During his government career, 

Nick won 3 national awards for innovation, directed 17 different divisions, and developed over 65 unique or first-of-their-kind pilot projects while directly generating $7.8 M in savings and pioneering the concept of innovation Value. 

Nick now keynotes and trains across the country on building Sustainovation in government 

and has visited over 80 different communities to help them transform their mindset.

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Becoming Unshakeable Podcast

With Heather R. Younger

Becoming Unshakable is the podcast for leaders, creators, and changemakers who know TRUE LEADERSHIP starts from within.

Each episode explores what it takes to lead with resilience, compassion, and purpose while staying human through it all.

Through candid conversations with executives, frontline leaders, coaches, and everyday heroes, Heather uncovers the real stories behind growth, compassion, setbacks, and transformation.

From navigating change to creating emotionally safe cultures, Becoming Unshakable reveals what it really takes to create leaders—and organizations—that can’t be shaken.

Hi, I'm Heather

I've been through every type of
ORGANIZATIONAL CHANGE
you can think of.

Layoffs, reorgs, mergers, acquisitions and major technology shifts. More than 20 years leading teams through high-stakes situations where results mattered, people depended on me, and decisions couldn't wait.

Those years taught me how to lead. But they also showed me the hidden cost of always being the one who holds it all together.

During our second reorg in less than a year, I walked out of a meeting with no say in what was happening, just marching orders. When my team asked how the meeting went, I should have said, “Give me 15 minutes to process this.” But I didn't. Instead, I let them absorb every ounce of my frustration.

Then I saw their faces.

The people who looked to me for stability had just watched me unravel. What was that teaching them about their ability to handle the pressure?

That moment changed how I saw my role as a leader. Leading teams isn't only about grit or resilience. It's about how your presence builds the trust your team needs to function when things get hard.

Today, I help organizations build unshakable leaders, teams, and cultures. Because when leaders become the calm teams can count on, organizations don't just survive change, they come out strong enough to handle what’s next.

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